September 19, 2009

Heartbroken

Occasionally you learn things through social networks. People you only casually know in real life, but know well enough to be "friends" with on Facebook, show up on your homepage and all of a sudden you know that they've just started a business, been accepted into Harvard, or broken up with their partner of five years. With just the sad little status update of "heartbroken" I found out that someone I don' t know very well is suffering the last - the kind of loss and pain that feels like it'll never end. (Until, of course, it does.)

If he were someone I knew better, I would reach out, tell him of my own experiences with a what felt like an epic, overwrought break-up. I'd tell him about the both terrible and kind things people tell you about a person for whom you cared deeply and how, actually, it doesn't matter if the words are kind or terrible, they all hurt. Either you made a mistake then or you're making a mistake now, but it doesn't feel like you can change anything. You do your best to make your friends stop talking about it, but all they can do is ask, "How are you doing?" Isn't it obvious? So I won't reach out to him, not only because I don't know him well enough, but also because there's no need to extend his pain in another direction.

8 comments:

Roberta S said...

Anjuli, with great wisdom this was written, and you are probably right that to reach out to this person would only extend their pain. But at the same time, this is a post that I think other heartbroken souls could read and draw much comfort from.

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